Updated: May 28, 2019
The establishment of trust and intimacy with the client depends upon the coach’s intuition; the ability to feel how best to ask a question, to respectfully challenge the client, to demonstrate trust.
Trust is gained through honesty, empathy, humour, openness and friendliness between client and coach.
Positive and powerful energy can be tapped though the application of the spiritual guidance of Taoism and Buddhism, such as the laws of Karma, Dharma and Giving
According to Goleman, intelligence quotient(IQ) accounts for 20% of work success and 1% of general life success. The remainder is down to emotional intelligence (EI), with self-awareness at its foundation.
Goleman identified three other areas of EI: self-management (ability to manage emotions, be optimistic and non-defensive); social awareness (having empathy with others); relationship management (combination of being able to develop other people, provide conflict management in relationships).
Coaches need to be very comfortable with their own emotions to allow a client to express emotions. Without this there can be no coaching success.
Therefore, successful and capable coaches should possess heightened self-awareness and EI.
Only when a coach is fully present, without their own issues blocking or misdirecting the session, can the co-active relationship between coach and client properly develop.